Love Languages

Once someone told me, that every relation has a love language. At that moment I knew that I just understood all my relations so much better. I love keeping nicknames for my friends, it’s my way of telling them that I value them in my life. I also talk to each friend differently, it’s like I have different moods. Many people will laugh at this conversational style, but that’s just because they don’t know the connection. There are moments where one friend and I will send messages to each other without any context whatsoever and still understand them while no one else will. That makes the conversation even more special. Similarly, I could be talking to the same friend on a group chat and on personal chat, and they could be in completely contrasting tones.

If you hadn’t realized yet, I’m a very social person. I’ll be the kind of person who randomly starts a conversation with an acquaintance who I might not have even met (This happens a lot with COVID). If you ask my friends, they’ll tell you I wouldn’t be able to stay away from talking to people if my life depended on it. It’s true, because I depend on social interaction to stay focused on my work. They’d also tell you that once I grow close with a friend, I’d do anything for them no matter what.

I also seem to have an interesting take on relations and close friends. I feel like at some point in the friendship, you look at the person as more than just a friend. Sometimes you’ll look at them romantically, sometimes you’ll love them platonically, but that stage of realization is what turns it into a relationship. Often that relationship will be romantic and could lead to something much bigger. Sometimes it could also break the relationship. However, when a relationship crosses the phase of realization, that’s when it becomes truly valuable. That’s when you realize that the person is more than just a friend.